Last on the List...

This week for work I was in a different city, and something addressed during the last day made me think it was time to call my best friend from high school. I had just talked to her a few weeks before, but she's due to have her first baby on November 1st, so I thought I should give a call. She picked up right away and I asked how she was doing, to which she responded that she was tired. I asked if she was any more tired than usual or just regular tired (she had been put on orders not to work for the last month of her pregnancy, so I didn't know if anything else had happened). She said she was a bit more tired than usual and I asked if there was any particular reason why. She asked me if I had talked to her sister (also a friend) and I said no.

"I had the baby." "WHAT?!?!?!" "I had him on Saturday." WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Holy smokes!!!! So I was blown away and heartily congratulated her. I was just randomly calling and I thought she would still be a few weeks away from having a new little man in the house!!!!!!!! So wow! I was totally happy for her (yes folks, even though I sooooooooo don't want kids for myself, I can be happy for those other folks on the planet (the other 98% of you) who do want little ones).

But I have to admit that I'm just a bit floored. Because she had the baby on Saturday. Saturday......five days before Thursday. I was the one to call randomly on Thursday. She had the baby on Saturday. Every single family member (including the other two bridesmaid's from the wedding last year who happen to be related to the baby - but are also considered friends). But no one had bothered to try to tell me. No one even thought about giving me a call or sending an e-mail. Nobody. Not the grandparents to the new little guy (who consider me like a third daughter), not the sister to the Mom who is also a good friend and a former roommate, not the husband who has my e-mail. No one. No one thought to even try to notify me. For five days - and only then because I called. So it really kind of hurts my feelings, because wow - five days?!?! I mean, it's a case of slipping through the cracks, but still.......I don't matter enough for anyone to think to notify me =-(. I feel like I've been encountering this a lot lately. I found out an old friend (who I am still in touch with) got married only because I glanced at his myspace page, and my parents waited to tell me about one of my Uncle's having a heart attack just because they hadn't seen me. It's just depressing sometimes to think of who and what you share things with, especially things of such enormous magnitude, and to think that you don't even pop up on their radar, even if they are on yours =-/.